The basis of any relationship in my
mind is respect and love. Being “in love” doesn’t last forever, at
least not for everyone. The challenges of life can put a strain on the
best of relationships. It would be foolish to expect the “happily
married” persona to have no conflicts ever in life. Any healthy
relationship needs dissent now and then.
Marriage is a commitment to mutually grow and share our sorrows and happiness and to raise kids in a secure and happy environment. But it takes two to tango, and both have to be equally committed to keep the marriage healthy and alive. Some decay the natural way – day to day living taking its toll, others giving in to the distrust and bitterness making the partnership toxic.
Calling a marriage failure when it ends in divorce is unfair. Who is to say that all who stay married are happy? It takes courage to recognize to walk away and paradoxically it also takes courage to stay and work on your relation.
16 years of marriage has taught me not to take it for granted. Tend your relationship with love and care, strengthen your roots right from the beginning, so that when times get tough, you are ready. 5 things that I have learnt in my marriage
1. Don’t keep tabs on who said what or did wrong. You are both on the same team.
2. Forgive – that is the only way to survive. Forgetting is harder.
3. Digging up old grievances gets you nowhere. Love is fragile – don’t expose it to negativity too much.
4. Smooth sailing is a myth – all marriages go through ups and downs. Hold on to all the good memories – they will be your savior when the times get rough.
5. Detox your relation from time to time. Get everything out of your chest and start afresh – clean and lighter.
A good marriage is a healthy mix of luck and hard work. A healthy marriage makes you a better person – I have learnt to appreciate kindness, and my spouse the power of saying no. We both have changed over the years and I would like to believe for better. We are absolutely different in personalities, have very few common likes or passions, but what we do share the one most important thing- our commitment and values to give our children a happy and secure home.
Marriage is a commitment to mutually grow and share our sorrows and happiness and to raise kids in a secure and happy environment. But it takes two to tango, and both have to be equally committed to keep the marriage healthy and alive. Some decay the natural way – day to day living taking its toll, others giving in to the distrust and bitterness making the partnership toxic.
Calling a marriage failure when it ends in divorce is unfair. Who is to say that all who stay married are happy? It takes courage to recognize to walk away and paradoxically it also takes courage to stay and work on your relation.
16 years of marriage has taught me not to take it for granted. Tend your relationship with love and care, strengthen your roots right from the beginning, so that when times get tough, you are ready. 5 things that I have learnt in my marriage
1. Don’t keep tabs on who said what or did wrong. You are both on the same team.
2. Forgive – that is the only way to survive. Forgetting is harder.
3. Digging up old grievances gets you nowhere. Love is fragile – don’t expose it to negativity too much.
4. Smooth sailing is a myth – all marriages go through ups and downs. Hold on to all the good memories – they will be your savior when the times get rough.
5. Detox your relation from time to time. Get everything out of your chest and start afresh – clean and lighter.
A good marriage is a healthy mix of luck and hard work. A healthy marriage makes you a better person – I have learnt to appreciate kindness, and my spouse the power of saying no. We both have changed over the years and I would like to believe for better. We are absolutely different in personalities, have very few common likes or passions, but what we do share the one most important thing- our commitment and values to give our children a happy and secure home.
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