Six months ago I wrote a post on how to
change careers in your 40s. No, this is no "yes I did it " story, I am
still a work in progress. Yet when I look back, I feel pretty proud
about how I handled adversity. I wasn't exemplary in the least - not the
optimistic, life is precious, I am grateful - crap. There were days
when I forced myself to me that - feel positive, but there were days,
when I was praying for an earthquake or any possible disaster that could
solve all my problems. Some people are naturally positive, some are
"learned optimistic" -or should I dare say pseudo optimistic. I fall in
the later category. As you grow older, you tend to adjust your behavior
to what is deemed acceptable in the society. We learn to please others
to avoid confrontations, losing our essence in the process.
The journey in self-discovery is still in its nascent stages, and hopefully I will be able to figure out the purpose of the life before it is too late. There are been a few lessons that I have learned though :
1. Pretending to be happy when you are hurting is not without repercussions - you lose your health in bargain. Sometimes we stay so long in the denial mode that we end up believing the illusion that everything is right.
2. Friends who can listen incessantly to your whining and complaining are few and therefore precious. Keep them close and you will never need a therapist.
3. Time heals - but when things go wrong - time stops - everyday seems like a millennium.
4. We don't control everything - so we are not responsible for all the undesirable incidents in our lives. It is easier to forgive your self when you realize that you are not the center of the universe .
5. Every - and believe every thing in life has a price - and the sooner we understand it - the easier it is to pay the price .
6. Understand no one is truly happy. We all have some lacuna in our lives. Most people just don't like to admit it . In the process of deceiving others they end up falling a prey to their own deceit.
7. The only way to be happy (believe me -I am able to capture just fleeting moments of it) is to live in the present. No it is not as easy as it sounds - it takes years and years of practice. But yes , that is the only way.
8. Laughter is the best medicine - so laugh to keep your sanity and cry to wash your soul .
Everyday you learn something surprising about yourself - I still am .....
The journey in self-discovery is still in its nascent stages, and hopefully I will be able to figure out the purpose of the life before it is too late. There are been a few lessons that I have learned though :
1. Pretending to be happy when you are hurting is not without repercussions - you lose your health in bargain. Sometimes we stay so long in the denial mode that we end up believing the illusion that everything is right.
2. Friends who can listen incessantly to your whining and complaining are few and therefore precious. Keep them close and you will never need a therapist.
3. Time heals - but when things go wrong - time stops - everyday seems like a millennium.
4. We don't control everything - so we are not responsible for all the undesirable incidents in our lives. It is easier to forgive your self when you realize that you are not the center of the universe .
5. Every - and believe every thing in life has a price - and the sooner we understand it - the easier it is to pay the price .
6. Understand no one is truly happy. We all have some lacuna in our lives. Most people just don't like to admit it . In the process of deceiving others they end up falling a prey to their own deceit.
7. The only way to be happy (believe me -I am able to capture just fleeting moments of it) is to live in the present. No it is not as easy as it sounds - it takes years and years of practice. But yes , that is the only way.
8. Laughter is the best medicine - so laugh to keep your sanity and cry to wash your soul .
Everyday you learn something surprising about yourself - I still am .....
