Lost in Tecnology

Isn't it ironical that in this age of technology and  instant communication, when physical distances have become irrelevant, relationships that matter most  face turmoil? In today’s world, where in most of our interactions we are either partially anonymous (phone), anonymous (chat rooms) or control what we appear to be like, it is not surprising that in personal face to face communications where openness and expression of candid thoughts are needed, we fumble.



We have become so accustomed to portraying how others want to see us that we tend to  forget to be true to our self. There is nothing wrong with it, except that when we talk about “real” relationships, it  creates a barrier which seems unsurmountable.When we are not true to ourselves, how can we be expected to be respectful and aware of people around us? What makes a couple who want to spend the rest of their lives together end up hating each other? Sometimes, of course it’s the circumstances, but many other times its just the inability to communicate your thoughts and feelings effectively.



Small grudges if not timely addressed add up and before you know it, some words said and some unsaid both leave a mark so deep , that the relationship despairs and is beyond repair. I find it very distressing when relationships that can be mended if given time to heal, just end up as disasters.



Communication is not just words, it involves your attitude, your body language and of course all the preconceived notions that are busy cooking up poisonous concoctions in your mind. Prejudices and presumptions definitely don’t  help – and believe me , more you know a person, more likely are you to have defined notions about them.


Don't ignore the discontentment, the hurt -express by writing if verbal communication is not your strong point. Whatever you do, clear the air before a small misunderstanding destroys something precious.