Of Family and Friends

Do we choose friends, make friends or discover them? Friendships are relationships we choose. We choose not because of any ulterior motive, but just because there is a mutual trust and respect involved. What is friendship without loyalty, without any dependency?  Friends are people who enhance our lives, just by being part of it. They make us laugh, pacify our fears and give us that nudge to move ahead when we are scared.


Friends are non-judgemental, they are your sounding boards. You can share your secrets, your dreams, bare your soul, yet be confident that they would still love you. I find growing older, it gets more difficult to make friends. Maybe friendships developed in the school and college years are more precious because, we are without any labels lent to us by world- professional or personal . Or maybe just because they have been with us right when the story of our life was being written makes it easier for us to relate to them.

There are friends for all seasons, friends who last for the summer,  and some you unexpectedly stumble upon in the midst of challenges. The later ones are the relation that are special, spending the dark time of your life with someone,instils a special confidence ,a trust that is hard to break.

We all have different equations with our friends.

1, Friends for life : These are friends who creep into your heart and stay there forever. You can bare your soul out without any fear of being judged. Friends who know you so well, that they complete the sentence that you begin.
2. Friends for summer: Some friendships are just recreational. You are well-wishers, you like each other, but you still hold something back.
3.Friends who are family: Now these are people, who you may disagree with, not meet, not talk, but still they are such a key part of your life, that they become family. For better or worse, whether you agree or disagree, whether you meet them or not, they are a part of you.
4. Friends by default : Then there are some who are friends by default by the sheer number of years you have known each other.

Whatever be the case, friendships you have the choice to dissolve, but friends who become family are for life.