Alone in a crowd

It's is a amazing   how many people are lonely in a crowd. We are all on this journey, each unique, yet connected in some way or the other to everyone else. Why is it then so hard to communicate with people from your heart? We share our pictures, practically our whole life on the internet, yet what we share is just a glimpse of our life censored and edited to present and market the perfect life we all apparently live. According to the social media, we are all living the dream lives, sometimes arousing the feelings of envy – an extension of our masked persona that we carry with us everyday. Rarely do we share our fears and disappointments or our struggles and frustrations and rightly so - you would soon have people running away from the "negative energy". I am not implying whining all the time and to everyone is right , but just that we all need someone in our lives to comfort and listen to us.

I am all for positive thinking, all for smiling and being happy (I do consider myself to be a fairly happy person), and the credit for that goes to the fine network of kind people in my life who are always there, patiently listening to my rants and give me space  to vent   my negative emotions. Did I say –non-judgmentally too?

When we believe the hype of optimism, we erroneously assume that we are doing away with all the negativity in our lives. Keeping up the pretense to be okay, when things are falling apart, can only break you. Facing  and accepting it, communicating your disappointments with others can make the picture clearer and dispel your fears.

It would be foolish to expect more than a couple of people in your life, who are willing to bear the storm with you and every time. I am sure some of you think this is what friends do – but not all your friends will be in the same phase of life.. I personally would find it very hard to empathize with a recovering drug addict(sympathy --yes ), and similarly don’t expect a woman in 20s to understand how being in a menopausal state feels.

A platform to address your grievances anonymously would be therapeutic too, considering even the moon doesn't shine bright every night, it is indeed wise for everyone to be in the forever happy mode .