In favor of shallowness.

“She avoids deep thought like an empty restaurant, not out of stupidity, but a canny resolve to be happy.” ― Alex Shakar, Luminarium

Don't let anyone etch on your heart - let them write - write with erasable chalk - chalk that can be washed away with rain to give space for the story to be amended into a positive ending. Passion and intensity are qualities that are erroneously highly rated - all they do is burn you out. If life is meant to be enjoyed, if we want to move on in life, we have to make sure that our heart only experiences scratches, not irreparable damage leaving it useless to function again.

Shallowness is not bad, how can it be? You don't drown in shallow water, you are not scared of it. Deep waters are where all the monsters lurk, scaring the bravest of all. Yet for some of us, intensity has been the norm, leading at times to obsessive behavior. Passion in work is encouraged, sincerity, loyalty are all perceived as virtues. But think about it are they really? Does loyalty really pay or passion in work or love give you at least part of what it demands from you ?

We have been misled to believe that giving our 100% is what makes us successful. No one tells you the price that you pay for it. Look around you , does sincerity really pay ? Intensity takes a lot from you, sincerity gives a lot and loyalty, well a shallow person is happy with the glitter - who cares if it is gold or not. 

I wish to learn to walk on shallow waters, clear water, where even if I slip and fall, I will not drown. Of course who is to define what is shallow and what is deep - what is loyal and what is disloyal, after all they are all what we perceive them to be, and our perceptions are all relative. In the ideal world of course we would be shallow, all protected and totally untouched, surrounded by sincere intense people wishing us the best in the world. Yet all I know is, if you are able to bounce back, if you are able to move on without even a shred of guilt, without even one bit of remorse, if your conscience is sleepy and your love flitting, life becomes a joyous ride.