Relationships...

Relationships can be complicated, after all we humans are among the most complex species known at present. We, with our egoes, our layers of intricately complex emotions, and our fine ability to mask our intentions, and our  own personal agendas. We with our jealousies, our insecurities, our desires, our ambitions and constant restlessness to be something we are not at present or to be where we are not.
We can have everything, yet be unhappy. We are capable of inexplicable greed, selfishness and illusions of being at the centre of  universe. Now when two complicated humans come in contact, each with a baggage, known and unknown, relationships are bound to be complicated. Even in our interactions with strangers, the one that would involve the least damage, or people who might not mean anything, we still judge, we still harbour anger and jealousy.
We may deny, choose to ignore or simply live under the illusion that we are perfect, but the truth remains, that our individual character comprises of different shades of emotions and the complexity of our emotions make it very hard to decipher. Every day our experiences add or change us,
We prefer to live our pretentious life, keeping up appearances, stroking our false sense of self-worth. Discovering your weaknesses, accepting them are the first steps in ensuring that we keep them in check. We cannot change our intrinsic natural instincts, but we can definitely tone them down,to keep the spotlight on our strengths.
Our relationship with ourself is the first step in building healthy relationships. If there is one thing I have learned is that I am responsible for my happiness. My insecurities are my problems. Harsh as it sounds leeching on to other people for your emotional needs, is not love.  As a parent my goal is to teach my kids to be fill my kids to the brim with love and self-esteem. Yet making sure they know that love is renewable, only from within.