Financial Repercussions on Relationships
In my earlier blog, I had written about how healthy finances relates to healthy relations. In today’s economic times, where so many of us are weathering the rough climate, even the healthiest and strongest of bonding is tested by lack of money.
I don’t believe you have to be rolling in moolah for a relationship to thrive, but it definitely does help when you don’t have to worry about how you are going to pay your next bill. The sickening feeling of checking your mail box for bills, the endless wait for the situation to improve can take toll on any relationship.
We all have different comfort zones, different perceptions about what is essential and needed and what is superfluous and lack of funds puts the spot light on this dissimilarity. While it might be easy for one partner to live frugally, the cutback may take a toll on the other partner. And before you know it, the ugly face of distrust is casting its shadow on the relationship. The temptation of financial infidelity, the roaring urge to blame the hopelessness of the situation on each other can be a challenge that not all couples can deal with. As a couple there are some steps that you can take to sustain the relationship.
1. Sit and talk: It is definitely not as painless as it sounds. The talk can be very uncomfortable and very soon turn into an argument and the key is to avoid arguments ruling over the issue.
2. Be realistic and set a goal: It is very important that both partners know how they plan to survive the setback. Accepting that you have a problem on hand, will make it easier to find a solution. Be sure to be on the same page.
3. Be kind: It is not easy to sail through rough weathers. The tendency to blame each other for the mess is likely. The key is to remember to listen and show kindness to the flaws that emerge. We all have the dark side of personalities hidden, the side we are aware only when times get tough. You will see personality traits of each other, which you didn’t know existed.
4. Communicate: Like all successful partnerships, it is imperative to keep all your communication lines open. It takes a lot to cheer up your partner, when you are bogged down with anxiety about tomorrow. Yet, that is what commitment in long-term relationships is about, supporting each other.
5. Be honest about your fears and hopes. Hopes get dimmer as time passes and that is your test.
Life has its challenges, and loss of job translates into a loss of lifestyle known to you. But like everything in life, times change, and the key to remember as a couple is that you are both on the same side of the fence.
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