Letter to my 15 year old son

 Letter to my 15 year old

Son, as you are counting days to your 15^th birthday, I just wanted to share some of the wisdom that I have learnt from my experiences. You will as you grow older have your own life experiences, some bitter and some sweet, yet some universal truths don’t change.

1. Be kind: Kindness is the most underrated trait. I know when you are young- smartness, intelligence and looks matter more, but developing a kind heart is what will make you a man. The cut-throat competition, the harsh reality of life, money, and success is all good, but without having a heart that empathizes with others, respects the feelings and beliefs of other, you will never find happiness in life. Every day you help someone without any expectation, you are closer to being the person I wanted you to be.
2. Courage: Although as a mother, I wish you all the best, but the fact remains that you will face challenges in life. You will face heartaches (if you haven’t already), setbacks, disappointments, all tools to chisel your courage. Courage doesn’t happen overnight, you have to fall and rise again, feel the fear and yet do it again to become stronger. Courage is following your heart, having faith and doing the right thing always (like telling the truth when lying could be an easier option- you know what I am hinting at). There are no shortcuts, no guarantees in life, only faith and courage. I know we discussed about God and how you are still trying to figure out your beliefs( which is fine with me ) but when you do find your path believe me, faith is what will keep you from looking forward to the new day.
3. Be the best version of yourself: All I really want is for you to go out in the world, without any fear, and try everyday to fulfill the potential you were born with. Be the person God intended you to be. Everyday learn little, give more, share more and spread cheer.
4. Life is good: Create your own reality and your own definition of success. Life is beautiful, life is ever-changing. Live every moment to the fullest. Believe in the power of karma, do well and be happy. Remember that no one can take away from you what is yours, and the only thing you have control over is your mind and your attitude – heart is a different story. (I will leave that for when you are 18).
5. Lastly, remember the real measure of success is the love you get from your family and friends. Invest time in good friends, love your brother (he will be your resource if you ever have to rally against me) and always respect yourself.

You know you are loved, and when you go out in the world, it will be your opportunity to shine. How you behave, how you react will decide the success or failure of  my  parenting.