Organize your thoughts

It is scary how much you turn like your mother as you grow older. I remember, mom always losing stuff and spending hours searching for it. Never did in my wildest dreams, did I imagine, turning into a copy of her.

Scattered brain – the by-product of growing older or maybe taking on added responsibilities, whatever be the case it’s affect on the memory and effectiveness is debatable.


There are millions of thoughts racing around in your brain, mostly things to do list, worries about finances, health. Sometimes you feel overwhelmed and the thoughts take over your very being. Steps to organize your thoughts and take control over your life:



1. If you are in a rush – slow down. It sounds contradictory, but works. Stop and take deep breaths a couple of times.


2. Give your thoughts a form by jotting down all your worries, all your to do list in concrete black and white words .When you actually see what you think, it makes your thinking process clearer.


3. Sift through your writings, and purge the one’s that are imaginary and created by your fear. Be realistic and break down the goals and your thoughts according to priority.


4. Write down your most important appointments in red on the calendar, your children’s activities in blue, your monthly bills due dates in green,school events in black, any family events like baby shower , weddings, dinners in purple. Codifying for to do list this way will break it down and simplify your thought. Keep the calendar visible, so that all family members are aware of what is going on, it will be easier to add an event if needed, without double or triple booking.


5. Take stock of all that you have been able to accomplish. Rewarding yourself for your things done and your past achievements is a great motivator. It’s hard to work for yourself or others without incentives.


Now, sit back and enjoy the clarity and the joys of organized thoughts.
























































Now, sit back and enjoy the clarity and the joys of organized thoughts.












































Organized thoughts:




It is scary how much you turn like your mother as you grow older. I remember, mom always losing stuff and spending hours searching for it. Never did in my wildest dreams, did I imagine, turning into a copy of her.

Scattered brain – the by-product of growing older or maybe taking on added responsibilities, whatever be the case it’s affect on the memory and effectiveness is debatable.

There are millions of thoughts racing around in your brain, mostly things to do list, worries about finances, health. Sometimes you feel overwhelmed and the thoughts take over your very being. Steps to organize your thoughts and take control over your life:



1. If you are in a rush – slow down. It sounds contradictory, but works. Stop and take deep breaths a couple of times.

2. Give your thoughts a form by jotting down all your worries, all your to do list in concrete black and white words .When you actually see what you think, it makes your thinking process clearer.

3. Sift through your writings, and purge the one’s that are imaginary and created by your fear. Be realistic and break down the goals and your thoughts according to priority.

4. Write down your most important appointments in red on the calendar, your children’s activities in blue, your monthly bills due dates in green,

school events in black, any family events like baby shower , weddings, dinners in purple. Codifying for to do list this way will break it down and simplify your thought. Keep the calendar visible, so that all family members are aware of what is going on, it will be easier to add an event if needed, without double or triple booking.

5. Take stock of all that you have been able to accomplish. Rewarding yourself for your things done and your past achievements is a great motivator. It’s hard to work for yourself or others without incentives.



Now, sit back and enjoy the clarity and the joys of organized thoughts.

Some truths to live by

Ø      Forgive but don’t forget

Ø      You are more than your grief/loss. It is up to you to fill the void with something beautiful.

Ø      We are not here to compete. Enjoy the journey, it’s not a race. We all end up at the same place sooner or later.

Ø      There will always be someone who is better off than, prettier than you. Accept it and it will make life easier.

Ø      Good times or bad – change is inevitable.

Ø      Live every day as if it is your last – because honestly no one can guarantee you that it is not.

Ø      Let not the smile or masks on people’s face fool you. If you could look beyond the pretense, everyone and I mean each one of us have been through hardships and failures.

Ø      Don’t be afraid to show your wounds, it just makes you more human.

Ø      Tomorrow is another day; don’t make it an extension of today.

Ø      If you are getting late to go somewhere, slow down. Slow down and let the moment to rush pass by.

Ø      Every moment you are a new person – embrace your past and dream of your future, but live only in today.

Ø      Don’t stop dreaming. Dreams and hopes are the vitamins for your soul.

Women and Guilt

Guilt is the relentlessly cruel emotion that follows women and casts its shadow on whatever we do. Feelings of remorse are impressive when you are a criminal, but we women tend to go on a guilt trip almost as if it was part of definition of being a woman. I always assumed that it was an emotion more related to being born and raised in India – the cultural issue. Yet, the more I live and talk to women of diverse ethnic groups, the more I realize it is emotion that unifies women all over the world. I am still trying to figure out if it is in our genetic makeup or is it a learnt trait?



Here are some of things that I have observed that women feel guilty about .



1. Eating a chocolate bar: Okay, not all women feel that way, but, many of my women customers are so apologetic about eating a bar of chocolate, that it’s not funny. When did food become something that we have to be guilty about? I am sure enjoying a bar of chocolate without guilt would make it more enjoyable than fretting about the calories. And God forbid if you happen to gain a pound over the weekend.





2. Working: Being a working mother, I am constantly ridden by guilt, especially if I am spending my time away from my children. Every child is different - some demand more time and attention from you, while others are happy to be by themselves. As a mother, it is very easy for me to fall in the trap of being the perfect parent – healthy food, activities, providing all the frills (right toys, right books) and if you happen to fail in any one of this, you beat yourself up – at least I do. Right balance is different for different families and we need to accept that.



3. Not working: Expectations about a woman working and bringing the dough is high. There have been years when I haven’t worked and did I feel guilty about it! Of course, the feeling was still there when I started working, except now I felt guilty about being away from my children.



4. Being selfish: There are times, when I want to do things just to please myself, not for family or  for friends. It‘s very hard to get rid of the feeling of guilt for being selfish. I know its okay, but it’s a feeling that lingers around you.



5. Exercise: I feel so guilty about not exercising that I end up eating more chocolate to relieve myself of the stress that always is tagging along with guilt.  Yet there are times, you have to let go of this feeling that pops up your





All I know is that there has to be a way to manage this voice which pulls us down all the time. Eat your chocolate, work if you want to, don’t if you don’t want to; its time we took over this negative emotion and put it in its place and let our own opinion matter more than what others thing is right or wrong!