Thursday, November 14, 2013

Light and Shadow

The best of us, are at times incapable of handling feelings of sadness and grief by ourselves. Our whole life is centered towards bringing in happiness forgetting that light can cast shadow too. We are often under the wrong impression that being happy means being in the state of everlasting bliss.

You need tears to soften your heart, just like rain softens the parched land. Without experiencing sadness and sorrow, there is no way we will learn to recognize happiness. Everything in life is relative, every emotion, every feeling has an opposite emotion. It is not only impossible but also not healthy to be happy all the time. High tide brings you gifts from far away, but only in low tides are we able to recognize and gather them.

Sadness is powerful, carrying you away with its force. Struggling or pretending to feel anything else is only going to prolong the cure. Hearts are strange that way, some fragile, breaking into pieces at the slightest blow, while others softening with each disappointment. People who are projecting a happy image, just so that their loved ones don't feel their pain, are the worst in recovering.

Even the happiest of us all go through phases of feeling low at times. Call it mood swings or nature's way of balancing, but just when you think you are strong enough, have been hardened enough by life to face any adversity in life with a smile, the monstrous head of grief pops up.

A little bit of sadness is what keeps us humane, but the realization that we are not as strong as we thought we were can throw us off guard and shake our confidence to the core. It is easy to ignore and pretend that all is fine , that you are unaffected by the disappointments and heartbreak, to just smile and march on, keeping all the feelings deep in. Negative feelings are strange, ignore them and they become intense. 





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